Love is Blind: Nick and Vanessa Lachey discuss what they learned from their marriage

Nick and Vanessa Lachey have spent five years watching strangers fall in and out of love on Love Is Blind, and somehow, it’s made their own marriage even stronger. The real-life couple, who’ve been married for 14 years, told Parade that the show reminds them of their early days, when their relationship was mostly long phone calls and cheesy texts. (They first met on MTV’s Total Request Live, which feels like ancient history now.) Turns out, those old-school chats weren’t too different from the show’s “pods,” where hopeful singles spill their hearts out without ever locking eyes.

Now parents to three kids called Camden, 13, Brooklyn, 10, and Phoenix, 8, Nick and Vanessa even use Love Is Blind episodes as life lessons about heartbreak and bouncing back. Over the years, they’ve popped up less on-screen, but not because they’ve lost interest. The producers just realized the drama doesn’t need a play-by-play, though the Lacheys still chat about the contestants long after the cameras stop rolling.

Vanessa and Nick’s impact on the Love Is Blind experiment

Nick explained that Love Is Blind's format instantly resonated with both hosts.

"The pods definitely remind us of the early days of our relationship," he shared.

When they started dating, Love Is Blind's Nick had just divorced singer Jessica Simpson and was performing with 98 Degrees. Vanessa worked as a VJ on MTV. Their conflicting schedules meant most early conversations happened by phone, long before FaceTime existed.

"The idea of getting to know someone through extensive conversations, asking all the questions that I think a lot of people in today's dating world don't ever feel like they get the chance to ask, especially early on, we can relate to," Nick said.

Vanessa added that those conversations revealed crucial compatibility factors. They both wanted multiple children, valued travel, and preferred quiet nights cooking at home over going out. Hosting the show has taught the Lacheys to protect their relationship's foundation.

"We love being around love. We love seeing it blossom," Nick explained.

Watching couples fall for each other on Love Is Blind serves as a reminder to preserve those initial feelings.

"Hold on to that very early, organic feeling when you first fall in love with your significant other," he emphasized.

The couple's involvement on Love Is Blind has decreased significantly since the Atlanta-based first season. Back then, they interviewed participants after pod dates, visited apartments, and attended weddings. Producers eventually decided the narrative flowed better without hosts inserting themselves throughout.

"They figured out: Let's let the story tell itself," Nick said.

While they wish for more screen time, both respect the creative direction that's made the show successful.

Vanessa and Nick talk about teaching their children about heartbreak

The Lacheys use the series as an educational tool for their children. Vanessa recounted an episode where their oldest son, Camden, crawled into bed while they watched. A heartbreak scene unfolded, and Camden expressed sympathy for the rejected contestant. Vanessa seized the teaching opportunity.

"I explained to him heartbreak is real, and it's gonna happen at some point," she said.

She emphasized that disappointment comes in many forms: lost jobs, crushed dreams, or failed relationships. Learning to manage expectations and emotions matters more than avoiding pain altogether. The couple believes these honest conversations prepare their kids for real-world challenges while maintaining appropriate boundaries about what their middle schooler watches.

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Love Is Blind Season 9 is now streaming on Netflix, with new episodes dropping weekly.

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