The growing tension between Shekinah Garner and Sarper Güven was ultimately addressed after the 90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Tell-All. During the after-show event, their already tense marriage relationship broke into open conflict. In case viewers were curious about what transpired, Shekinah herself confirmed it.
"We got into a fight," Shekinah said. "We actually — before leaving LA, I even messaged producers. I said, 'I don't want to be on the same flight as him. I don’t want to stay in the same hotel. I’m not arriving with him. I don’t want to sit on the couch with him at the tell‑all.'"
This open admission demonstrated how terrible the situation had gotten behind the scenes.
Shekinah mentioned that they hadn't even roomed together before the cameras started rolling, even though show producers had talked them into carpooling and living together. In less than a month of marriage, the couple was already fighting to the teeth, feeling indifferent towards each other, and under social pressure.
Their outstanding issues juxtaposed their supposed united front at the Tell-All, which made for an unusually tense appearance and begged the question of whether their marriage could ever survive the aftermath.
90 Day Fiancé star Shekinah shares heated tensions with Sarper
Shekinah Garner's candid reflection on her and Sarper Güven's tumultuous relationship was a major factor in the attention generated by 90 Day Fiancé Season 11 Tell-All. Shekinah acknowledged that their marriage had experienced several difficult times during an appearance on SiriusXM's "Reality Checked," stating,
"We were going through a really rough patch, and in the beginning of our marriage, it seemed like one rough patch after another. And there were a few times Sarper moved out of the house," 90 Day Fiancé star revealed.
She disclosed that she had once requested Sarper to leave, a decision he subsequently acknowledged, stating that she had "kicked" him out.
The effects of their dispute were evident. Shekinah revealed that before the Tell-All, they hadn't even shared a hotel room and had to be put on different planes due to the uncomfortable situation.
On the 90 Day Fiancé stage, their tense relationship was apparent as neither of them was able to produce the typical on-screen chemistry that was expected. They were not presenting a united front during the high-pressure environment of the Tell-All, according to Shekinah, who called the event emotionally taxing.
Additionally, a little context from earlier in the season on how Sarper’s personal struggles factored in. He revealed he wanted more independence, and felt suffocated as he learnt to adjust to life in America, he likened living in Shekinah's home to "prison".
Meanwhile, amid a heated argument that aired in April, Sarper threatened to “go back to Turkey,” causing Shekinah to break down in sobs, as she lamented feeling abandoned in her country of origin. These instances highlight Sarper's emotional need and Shekinah's growing annoyance until she felt trapped.
Together, these open revelations illuminate a marriage that is under tremendous stress, which is made worse by cultural adjustment, communication problems, and competing expectations. The responses given during the Tell-All addressed more than simply reality-show drama; they also touched on the more profound difficulties of negotiating intimacy, love, and life in the face of constant scrutiny.
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